Every romance is about crucial choices you will have to embark on. We all remember “Alice’s adventures in Wonderland” written by the great Lewis Carroll. In this instructive and entertaining tale the heroine at a certain point comes to the crossroad with a Cheshire cat hiding in the nearby tree. Alice asks the cat which road she better takes, and the cat asks her in return which road she would prefer. Alice doesn’t really know what to answer, so the cat says: “Then it doesn’t matter”.
It is a piece of formidable wisdom we should not argue with. Just like Alice, in our dating efforts we often approach a critical juncture when we need to choose. It is often the choice between continuing a fledgling relationship (or even online communication with a Russian or a Ukrainian woman) or calling it a day. So, let’s consider in more detail what sort of decisions we are facing when dealing with Slavic brides.
The beginning of a dating process involves getting to know each other, sizing up each other’s potential and personal traits. We are focused on deciding whether we should continue with this woman at all. Sometimes the correct and irrefutable answer is found rather quickly, in other cases it may involve several dates or, as the case may be, even years. In some cases we respond negatively: “No way I am going to meet this bride again”. In other cases we are 100% positive: “Yes, that’s the woman I want to be with, let’s see where we get from here.”
The second decision we face – do I want to be exclusive with this woman? At a certain point, usually after a few dates, you will need to decide if you want to be serious about your new relationship, if you want to stick only to this woman and ditch all other candidates who may be eager to “own” your heart. If you want to date Russian singles all the time and steer clear of anything serious, you better warn your potential partners about this in advance, it would be more earnest.
Sexuality standards begin with very liberal ones and end up as rather conservative. Before you even proceed dating women, online and/or in real life, you should assess your own attitude to the physical traits of your potential partner. Determine what can pass as acceptable for you and what you will not tolerate under any circumstances.
Compatibility and core values is another pivotal issue of paramount importance. Do you both have the values that are mutually reconcilable? Do you have wide differences as far as gender roles, raising children, family obligations go? At the initial dating stage differences are bound to create additional attraction between the dating partners, but similarities are more important in the longer run.
There are potential roadblocks that can hamper both the developed and the fledgling relationship. Such deplorable hindrances may include living in different cities or even countries, disgruntled and meddling family members, children from previous liaisons and so forth. If such challenges become evident, the dating partners should consider working hard through them and finding suitable solutions. As sad as it may sound, one of the solutions is discontinuing the connection.
However, the couples that overcome such roadblocks become very happy together. When you battle through certain barriers in life together with the person you love, your relationship grows stronger, your connection is not easily breakable. In this respect, it is even desirable that a couple endures a certain period of hard life together, be it lack of money, health issues or other problems. When you win over the circumstances you have to live in, and do it together with your bride or wife, your union and/or your family will gain additional strength and will be unlikely to fall apart in the future.
The next and the final decision you will face in a successful relationship – should we get married? Even if you have a great time together, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you both are ready to raise kids and remain faithful to each other. It is advisable to sit together for a serious and earnest evaluation of your possible life-long partnership. Try to take all the pros and cons into consideration, apply analytical skills and your feelings. This combination of mind and heart is bound to bear the excellent fruit of a tenacious and stalwart marriage.